I’ve experienced significant improvements in my relationship with my husband and children."
“When you’re stuck or unhappy in your closest relationships, it’s easy to lose faith in yourself and in life. Linda helped me to regain that trust. Even though my family was unwilling to participate in the process, Linda taught me new ways to approach old patterns…I’ve experienced significant improvements in my relationship with my husband and children. I was enduring a contentious marriage and now both of us have reached a place of reconciliation. For me, this is the key: Linda guides you to re-frame your story with compassion for yourself AND all your significant relationships, even the most difficult and hurtful. Thank you with all my heart, Linda!”
I learned there could be a Compassionate Divorce."
"I imagine that working with me and my spouse was quite challenging as we both brought a lot with us while dealing with intense life issues. Once the difficult decisions were further along, there was space to let concepts into my mind and heart of empathy and compassion. Linda always seemed to maintain an ability to stay above the fray, and she taught me how to come from my Highest Self. I feel that I understood the meaning of Highest Self immediately, yet before being introduced to that concept by Linda, I don’t think that I operated from that place often enough. I am now am working toward living my best life, from my Highest Self, looking for good things for myself, my newly structured family, and for the greater good in my business and personal life."
We’re building an entirely new marriage.”
"I resisted leaving for years with two young kids and limited finances, the idea of leaving felt almost as bad as staying. By the end of our first session, we were able to strip away some of the old resentments and junk to have a glimpse of the person we fell in love with all those years ago. After a few short months, we are no longer thinking of ending our marriage. Linda is helping us build an entirely new marriage. She is a Godsend and is helping me to love myself, love my husband, and love my life. What a treasure.”
“Linda guided us mindfully through the impact of divorce.”
"My (former) husband and I owned a business together and worked together every day. We wanted to dissolve our marriage but not lose our company in the process. Linda helped us sort out the dysfunctional parts of the relationship from the parts of our relationship that still worked and we wanted to retain, allowing us to continue to work together, successfully, for years. She helped us separate from each other in a mutually respectable way so that I could move past my anger and disappointment in the failed relationship.
She also helped us stay focused on what was really important: our 3 year old child, making him the center of most of our decisions, asking ourselves what was best for him as we wrote our joint parenting agreement. When our son attended a group for kids of divorced parents at his school, they thought he was fantasizing when he told the counselor his parents worked together every day. Not only was Linda able to guide and advise us mindfully through the psychological and physical impact of divorce, but also the legal aspects, helping us as she wrote our divorce decree to suit our needs.”
I came to Linda seeking mediated divorce documents and came out with nothing but peace and hope.”
"Linda’s unwavering pursuit of compassion and dogged exploration into the emotional history of both our lives was incredibly revelatory. I came to understand how little I understood myself emotionally as well as how much pain I had suppressed, hidden, or avoided. I was able then to see my wife as a person to be respected, instead of a problem to be solved, and now am party to perhaps the best divorce the world has seen. My relationship with my ex-wife now is better than it ever was when we were married. Our child has performed a full reversal of negative behaviors to become a desired friend, colleague, and leader in her social circles."
“I am breaking free from destructive patterns.”
“In just one session with Linda Kroll, I gained insight into a stumbling block in my relationship that I thought was impassable. Her clarity and intelligence cut through my defenses allowing me to see the ways in which I was sabotaging myself. She is a serious and effective therapist who continues to give me the courage to face my painful past and the tools to break free from destructive patterns. I am very grateful for her presence in my life and awed by her extraordinary skill. ”
“Linda helped me love all ‘Parts’ of my SELF!”
"Entering my 50s, my roles as a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and SELF were challenging and exciting. I was looking for balance, and a stronger validation of SELF. I wanted to maintain my roles from a place of truth. Linda guided me, bringing all my Parts to the table, and helped me to separate, change, love, and validate them all.”
“With Linda’s caring guidance, I moved forward with peace and strength.”
"When I was first referred to Linda, I felt sad, scared, alone and extremely confused. With Linda’s caring guidance, I learned ways to cope with what was happening with my life and how to move forward with peace and strength. She showed me options I didn’t know existed. This helped me feel so much more in control of my actions and decisions and allowed me to be a strong role model for my children. Life is so much better…I now face each day with excitement, strength, and peace.”
You can begin to transform your relationship now!
Compassionate Mediation® is a healing program to help you communicate with your partner to resolve all of your conflicts. It is designed for individuals or couples who are seeking information and support. You are guided through all the important conversations to help you decide if you can create a new and better marriage together or whether to separate or divorce.
Compassionate Mediation® provides a template for discussing all of the issues – money, parenting, roles and responsibilities, goals, sex – in ways that hold out a potential for a more loving and intimate relationship or a peaceful and respectful transformation.
· The short term process gives you and your partner information about all of your
options, including a separation, legal separation, or a divorce.
· With full knowledge of your potential rights, responsibilities, gains and losses,
you might renew your desire to truly heal your current relationship and make
positive actions in the directions of meeting both of your needs.
· If divorce is ultimately your final outcome, you will embark on the process with
much more confidence, clarity and calm, and be able to create a Compassionate
The time to start Compassionate Mediation® is as soon as you recognize there are issues that cause you to feel distance or pain. It is a process that is helpful at any time you have problems in your relationship. (It can also be helpful after your divorce is finalized as a way to heal the pain from the past.)
· As you communicate without judgment or blame, you may be able to heal the
current situation and be able to create a new and better relationship even as
you discuss what a separation or divorce would entail.
No matter where you are in your relationship, there is help:
· If you have been thinking about a divorce, Compassionate Mediation® gives
you an opportunity to discuss all of your issues that have caused you to feel
unhappy, angry or stuck. You can look at your situation from a new perspective
and become more SELF-led.
· If you are in the middle of your divorce, Compassionate Mediation® is an
opportunity to end the legal battles and learn a way to communicate and reach
a respectful and equitable settlement.
· If you are still suffering or fighting after your divorce, Compassionate
Mediation® gives you new skills with which to relate to your ex-spouse and
create healing in your re-structured family.
Compassionate Mediation® is an opportunity to heal and transform your relationship to foster friendship and trust.
As a therapist, mediator and attorney, I've worked with thousands of women and men who were suffering in their relationships. I developed Compassionate Mediation® as a unique program to help individuals or couples in conflict resolve their differences.
· It is a time limited exploration of what is needed to create a “new marriage” -
based on what each partner needs and the other is willing to provide - OR to
create a separation or divorce that is respectful, peaceful and calm.
· Often a couple has tried traditional marriage counseling and one or both
parties are unwilling to commit to more of the same. One or both partners may
have considered a separation or a divorce, but speaking about it has been too
confrontational or anxiety–provoking.
· The goal of Compassionate Mediation® is to help couples have more SELF-
leadership in their decision making. They each learn how to confidently and
courageously ask for what they want and need, listen with empathy and
compassion to the needs of the other, and create mutually beneficial
· If you and your partner want to commit to a new relationship together, you can
use the tools you have acquired in Compassion Mediation® to be a more
informed and equal partner. If you both decide a separation or divorce is the
direction you choose, then you will be prepared for a SELF-led Divorce® that
avoids pain and animosit.
· As each one of you (or if ONLY one of you) becomes more SELF-aware and SELF-
led, the decision making process becomes easier and more respectful. Instead
of blame and judgment, you are encouraged to accept the responsibility of the
co-creation of your current situation and learn skills for fashioning a new
relationship that meets the needs of both of you.
· Often the partner who wants to leave the marriage has been giving signals for
years that have been unattended to by their spouse. Sometimes the pain has
gone on for too long, and the feelings have long since changed.
· Compassionate Mediation® helps the spouse hoping for a reconciliation to
address his or her fears and concerns about a separation or a divorce.
Sometimes the mere discussion of the ending of the relationship is the catalyst
needed to help create a real desire to work on the marriage.
· Compassionate Mediation® helps you become informed and empowered to
move forward with confidence and courage. Knowing that the only person you
can change is yourself, you can work to become the best you can be and then
create something new together.
· Whether that “something new” is a Compassionate Relationship or a SELF-led
Divorce®, you will know you did your best to preserve the feelings of
connection and compassion that brought you together in the first place. The
decisions made from your highest and best SELF will help you restructure your
lives, and the lives of your children, to create more peace, love and joy.
You or your partner might feel stuck in habitual patterns that create “walls” that prevent you from being your best SELF in your relationship. You may have forgotten or neglected to relate with kindness to the person you once promised to love forever. You might also feel angry and judgmental at yourself as well as your spouse.
· You may be ambivalent about whether to try marriage counseling (again) or
just file for divorce. You might feel overwhelmed, scared, or lost in indecision.
Fear, uncertainty, anger and resentment have possibly impacted your
relationship over time.
· Compassionate Mediation® is for you if you want to try to create a new and
better marriage instead of proceeding towards a break up or divorce with hurt
and anger. And if you are certain you want a divorce, this process will help you
peacefully and respectfully re-structure your family.
Even if your partner is reluctant or refuses to participate, you can begin the process of creating a new and better relationship by knowing how to communicate from your highest and best SELF.
· As you put down your walls, forgive yourself and your partner and learn the
Miracle of Empathy, you will bring an improved style of relating to the current
situation. Whatever the outcome of your marriage, you will have learned
invaluable skills to help you heal and re-structure your whole family.
· You will learn the Five Steps to getting what you want and need as you begin to
make positive changes in the direction of the highest good for all concerned.
When you show up differently, the relationship automatically shifts.
· Compassionate Mediation® will help you learn all of your rights and
responsibilities at the same time you heal the burdens from your past, let go of
limiting beliefs, connect to your spiritual source and relate from your highest
and best SELF.
· You will know that you did everything you could to create a new relationship
before you decide to end the one you’re in.
Yes, if you are looking to learn the process, training programs are beginning soon. You will be able to help your individual clients who are unhappy in their relationship and not sure whether they want to “stay or go” to explore their feelings and concerns
· If you work with couples at an impasse, you can help them move forward. You
will learn how to teach Compassionate Communication to your clients for more
SELF awareness and empathy to resolve their differences You can then offer
information and strategies to help clients create a new and better relationship,
in whatever form it will take.
For more information contact: Linda@YourCompassionateCommunication.com
Together, we can help change the face of divorce, one heart at a time.
I look forward to connecting with you!